Hey everyone, Husky here.
I want to preface by thanking each and every one of you for the kind and fond memories. It's something I will cherish greatly forever.
To put it bluntly, I do not think Giants Lair is the same as it was before, and has unfortunately turned into something that it had since the beginning tried to avoid and steer away from.
The events that have happened have been heartbreaking. A lot of people are hurt on both sides. People have resigned left and right. People are hurting, and instead of working to fix the problem, I see us continuing to catch each other in these "gotcha" moments, arguing incessantly. People can't just disagree on things. People can't move forward - there are many reasons for this. Some good. Some bad. I'm not going to lie to you when I say that enough is enough from both sides. Myself included - I certainly had things to say during the more active moments.
The point is - we became the very thing we sought to destroy and learn from, only to end up chasing what we ended up running from. We've overall in my opinion made a net zero on our progress, I am sorry to say. And I do not say this in capacity believing I am perfect. I made mistakes, hurt people, and have caused problems both for myself and this community. I will be able to forgive myself one day, and I am sorry to those who may have been affected by me.
Overall, despite my desperate and carnal desire to help this place grow, I've decided ultimately after weighing and discussing my status to walk away from this place and its people that remain. I just don't have the strength.
The community has spent several days trying to speak from the heart, starting with a thread created by @Rick Sanchez - which turned into a community cry for help.
Many problems were discussed, and people had poured their hearts out, only to be responded to with words that weren't met with action. No apology. No happy ending. Simply sent to voicemail.
I will begin to speak on that now, if you have a few moments.
@Agennon - Nobody should ask you to be perfect. Nobody should ask you to complete every task with precision and completeness. I see you tried in some capacities, but failed in others. You tried. I see that. I see you. I think you made mistakes, and that's alright. There's nothing wrong with making a mistake, but you need to be able to put trust in yourself and others to work together on a solution. It starts with sorry. It starts with an open hand and an open mind to wish to grow. To speak about the needs for improvement.
You were not the only one who was wrong in this situation. Both parties didn't act appropriately.
I don't believe that the people who have been resigning and leaving the community are speaking at you with disdain, but more of a feeling of being ignored - as if they poured their heart into a container and you chose to turn your head away. I know you're trying, and I'm so proud of you. I wish you would be more open to conversations about these events, and choosing to do what is best.
As of now, I feel as if there are inconsistencies in the way things are handled. People treated differently for better or worse depending on their history. History and understanding of a person and the situation at hand turns more into a bias and not mercy - punishing or not punishing where the answer may be clear.
Our morals should not be set aside for a volunteer position. We should not be creating such a setting where we can't even move past basic differences. We need to love one another more. Myself included. I do not speak to anything like I am better in any way, I just wish to set a better precedent - a better understanding.
We need to be better, otherwise no matter how many communities we go through - they will end up being the same thing at the end of it.
To those who are trying to hold it together: I see you, I'm proud of you, and I thank you greatly.
To those who have left due to it all: I also see you. Thank you for trying - I'm also proud of you.
I plan on sticking around in very minor capacities - I may still enjoy the Minecraft server, but I don't expect to be around much other than being on some discord servers. I tried - I really did. I gave it all I could, and I failed. For that, I am truly sorry. If this place improves, I may come back some day.
Choose kindness and love - I beg of you.
Ross.
I want to preface by thanking each and every one of you for the kind and fond memories. It's something I will cherish greatly forever.
To put it bluntly, I do not think Giants Lair is the same as it was before, and has unfortunately turned into something that it had since the beginning tried to avoid and steer away from.
The events that have happened have been heartbreaking. A lot of people are hurt on both sides. People have resigned left and right. People are hurting, and instead of working to fix the problem, I see us continuing to catch each other in these "gotcha" moments, arguing incessantly. People can't just disagree on things. People can't move forward - there are many reasons for this. Some good. Some bad. I'm not going to lie to you when I say that enough is enough from both sides. Myself included - I certainly had things to say during the more active moments.
The point is - we became the very thing we sought to destroy and learn from, only to end up chasing what we ended up running from. We've overall in my opinion made a net zero on our progress, I am sorry to say. And I do not say this in capacity believing I am perfect. I made mistakes, hurt people, and have caused problems both for myself and this community. I will be able to forgive myself one day, and I am sorry to those who may have been affected by me.
Overall, despite my desperate and carnal desire to help this place grow, I've decided ultimately after weighing and discussing my status to walk away from this place and its people that remain. I just don't have the strength.
The community has spent several days trying to speak from the heart, starting with a thread created by @Rick Sanchez - which turned into a community cry for help.
Many problems were discussed, and people had poured their hearts out, only to be responded to with words that weren't met with action. No apology. No happy ending. Simply sent to voicemail.
I will begin to speak on that now, if you have a few moments.
@Agennon - Nobody should ask you to be perfect. Nobody should ask you to complete every task with precision and completeness. I see you tried in some capacities, but failed in others. You tried. I see that. I see you. I think you made mistakes, and that's alright. There's nothing wrong with making a mistake, but you need to be able to put trust in yourself and others to work together on a solution. It starts with sorry. It starts with an open hand and an open mind to wish to grow. To speak about the needs for improvement.
You were not the only one who was wrong in this situation. Both parties didn't act appropriately.
I don't believe that the people who have been resigning and leaving the community are speaking at you with disdain, but more of a feeling of being ignored - as if they poured their heart into a container and you chose to turn your head away. I know you're trying, and I'm so proud of you. I wish you would be more open to conversations about these events, and choosing to do what is best.
As of now, I feel as if there are inconsistencies in the way things are handled. People treated differently for better or worse depending on their history. History and understanding of a person and the situation at hand turns more into a bias and not mercy - punishing or not punishing where the answer may be clear.
Our morals should not be set aside for a volunteer position. We should not be creating such a setting where we can't even move past basic differences. We need to love one another more. Myself included. I do not speak to anything like I am better in any way, I just wish to set a better precedent - a better understanding.
We need to be better, otherwise no matter how many communities we go through - they will end up being the same thing at the end of it.
To those who are trying to hold it together: I see you, I'm proud of you, and I thank you greatly.
To those who have left due to it all: I also see you. Thank you for trying - I'm also proud of you.
I plan on sticking around in very minor capacities - I may still enjoy the Minecraft server, but I don't expect to be around much other than being on some discord servers. I tried - I really did. I gave it all I could, and I failed. For that, I am truly sorry. If this place improves, I may come back some day.
Choose kindness and love - I beg of you.
Ross.
